Who you marry is the biggest and most consequential decision in your life because marriage will stretch You. For the most part, it is capable of shaping and reshaping destiny. Since the exchange of blood is involved,it is capable of solidifying or destroying your present generation or generations to come.
Marriage is one of the most rewarding yet challenging journeys in life. While we often enter it with high expectations, the reality is that marriage is a lifelong learning process. It’ll stretch you.
Many people enter a marriage thinking that their spouse will be their “everything” — their best friend, emotional support system, cheerleader, and problem-solver. While it’s natural to lean on each other for support, expecting one person to fulfill your every need is unrealistic.
Love alone isn’t enough to hold a marriage together. Many couples believe that as long as they love each other, everything else will fall into place. But love doesn’t automatically solve differences in communication styles, personal values, or long-term goals.
What truly sustains a marriage is commitment, effort, and the willingness to adapt. Love can help keep the spark going, but it’s the daily choices that really make a difference.
One of the biggest misconceptions about marriage is that truly compatible people don’t argue. But not only is conflict inevitable, it’s also essential. In fact, the absence of conflict likely means that important issues are being swept under the rug. And it’s not the fighting that damages relationships — it’s how couples choose to handle their disagreements. Healthy conflict can bring partners closer by opening the door to deep, meaningful conversations about wants and needs, which can then lead to problem-solving.
Without constant maintenance, your marriage will crumble. Many couples underestimate how much work it takes to have a healthy marriage. The honeymoon phase may feel effortless, but over time, life’s responsibilities — work, kids, finances, health — often puts the relationship lower on the priority list. You are both going to change individually.You can’t expect the person you marry at 25 to be the exact same person at 45. People evolve, and priorities shift and life circumstances change. By embracing change instead of resisting it, you’ll come to realize the beauty and privilege in being able to witness this evolution.
The most successful couples are the ones who adapt and grow together because marriage is a place two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different. We should know that just because two people argue doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue doesn’t mean they do. A great relationship is about two things: first, appreciating the similarities, and second, respecting the differences.
