Friends are the bane of many relationships. Friends have made and marred many relationships. Many have broken their homes because of their friends. Some partners have turned from daunting cats on the altar to gnarling foxes sapping the living blood from their hosts with nagging, gnarling and negativity.
Ask yourself today, what role have I played in the progress or retrogression of my friend’s marriage or courtship. What role have I allowed others play? This is a very long story and if I start adding yours and mine and those of a few people i know, we would have a book in our hands. But what is the gist here?
How can friends help improve the health of our relationships? How can we as friends be healing balm instead of backstabbing bastards to others? The first question should be; should we be good health to other’s relationships? Would the record of certain breakups have you in them as the principal actor? What is the joy of your life when your words, examples and admonitions were the reason a relationship crashed and two lovers become arch enemies ever at daggers drawn?
“If I am the one she did that to, I would send her packing,” OR
“Did you see Mrs B’s husband bought her a car and you call yourself a man.” These are how many relationships took a dive down the abyss. Is it worth the trouble? Should it be so? This is not a time to start thinking,”hope I am not the person this guy is referring to?” My dear, there is nothing unique about your story, everybody has one that is similar. We are all difficult people and our society is so dysfunctional and therefore cohabitation is near impossible for humans. Therefore, you have to decide that you want to change the narrative. You have to be a peace educator. And when you are this, you have become a balm of healing to your friends’ relationships.
St Francis of Assisi prayed God to make him an instrument of His Peace. We can be this and by so doing help nuture a new culture of peaceful resolution, tolerance, longsuffering and forgiveness in the African Society. This would put us all on the path of recovery, healing as a globe, a species and as units of societies.
